Love Ruins Everything

OK, not everything that Nicholas Cage’s character says in this little seduction speech do I endorse. For example,

“I don’t care if I burn in hell. I don’t care if you burn in hell.”

This recklessness is indeed what we sound like when we’re in the grip of headlong love (or lust), but I still don’t recommend saying it to your significant other.

But.

The way he winds up the speech is just … brilliant.

“Love don’t make things nice. It ruins everything. It breaks our hearts. We are here to ruin ourselves and love the wrong people and break our hearts … and die!

Right on, Nick! The only thing that loving another guarantees us is heartbreak. No one knows this better than our Lord. He definitely “loved the wrong people” … and it got Him killed. Sure, love wins in the end, but let’s not skip over this part. The stories we tell will ring hollow if we skip the part where love ruins everything.

2 thoughts on “Love Ruins Everything

    1. Wow, I think this is the first time you’ve openly expressed that you don’t like something I’ve posted. That’s sort of a cool milestone.

      Short answer, I put it up because it’s February and we are talking about love.

      I don’t know if you’ve ever watched Moonstruck. It’s a romantic comedy, and maybe you don’t like rom-coms. Also, I admit that the situation in Moonstruck is even more messed up than in your average rom-com. The relationship is adulterous, sort of, because Cher is engaged to Nick’s brother. Also, Nick’s character is not a particularly wise pick for a woman. He’s somewhat mentally unstable. It’s not clear that he would make a good husband or father.

      But that’s sort of the point of the movie … that no matter how hard we may try to be wise, that’s not how these decisions get made usually. We don’t pick a life partner using a clipboard. I first saw Moonstruck as an older teen, when I was extremely determined to Make the Wise Choice and Guard My Heart and all that. And that’s not a bad thing. But the insight in this speech (“Love don’t make things nice”), which sort of distills the theme of the movie, just blew me away. Of course we should still try to make wise choices and have self-control and all that, but this speech was a good reminder that all those efforts are unlikely to protect us from heartbreak. That’s just the way life is.

      And no, I did not go out and rush into an adulterous affair after seeing this movie. šŸ™‚

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