… for things you can and can’t control.
What stands out to me in this article is the way the article will begin to approach blaming Jade’s mother for what happened, and then back away.
This little girl didn’t get the flu shot this year!
… But the family is not an anti-vaccination family.
But the flu shot can prevent complications like this from happening!
… But it’s only 40 – 60% effective at preventing the flu.
But you should always get flu shots for your kids!
… But this mother did get her kids flu shots, last March, and mistakenly believed they “were good for a whole year.”
But the flu changes every year!
… And this year was a very bad year for flu for kids, and the complication that happened to this little girl is vanishingly rare.
I understand that they are trying to make this article into a sort of public service announcement reminding parents to get flu shots and other vaccinations for their kids. And that kind of announcement is good. What’s not good is the implication that if you do everything right, you can prevent freak bad things from happening to your child. This is a very rare complication. It didn’t happen because this mom failed to get her kid a flu shot. It happened because we live in a fallen world. In this fallen world, freak bad things happen. People get sick. This is the definition of an imperfect world. This incident is more analogous to a plane falling on your head, than to failing adequately to provide for your child.
Every mom does this to herself, too, by the way. Jade’s mom says of the early days when her daughter had a mild fever,
“She was running around, having fun, eating normally, asking for snacks,” her mother remembers. “It was just — it’s a little bug, she’ll get over it.”
Phillips thinks back to those four days, December 19 through December 23, and wracks her brain for something that might have told her what was about to happen.”There wasn’t any sign that would’ve told me that something was seriously wrong with her,” she said.Ibid
I once had a similar experience. My then 2-year-old got a fever. All he wanted to do was rest on me. I thought about taking him to the pediatrician, but I knew exactly what they would say. “If the fever hasn’t gone away in three days, call us again.”
On day 3, we had difficulty waking him. It was a Sunday (of course), so instead of the pediatrician, we took him to an urgent care clinic. The clinic said to take him to the ER.
He turned out to have a fairly advanced case of bacterial pneumonia.
He hadn’t even been coughing.
We ended up with a 2-day stay in the hospital and he was fine. But what if he hadn’t been? I’m sure I (and lots of other people) would have been asking, “How could I not have caught this?” But there was no way I could have. It just seemed like a normal fever.